The future looks good for you. No matter what you may have heard in the past, this is true. How do I know this? Because you’re walking down an open road that lets you create a new opportunity for yourself. That’s why I’ve made it part of my mission to show you the ropes and how to make the most of your heartbreak.
Before I go further, I have a question for you.
feel like you’ve lost a part of yourself?
If so, you’re not alone. After a divorce or breakup, many women feel a deep sense of loss. It’s not uncommon for women to report feeling situational depression as a part of the grieving process for the relationship ending.
other reasons a heartbreak takes a toll…
- Issues with body image
- Fear of conversing with the opposite sex
- Loss of income support
- If she has children, she may fear no other man will want her and her “baggage”
- If she has debt, she may fear no man will accept her
Any of these sound familiar?
If you’re experiencing any of this, it’s okay. Major life changes are not easy. Whatever you’re up against, it’s completely normal. It’s normal to grieve, but you don’t have to stay stuck there.
New opportunity: Divorce as a fresh slate
New career, new friends, new business, new—whatever you want to do.
It’s an even better opportunity to date again. All you have to do is prepare yourself for when opportunity knocks at your door! Here are some pointers to help you prepare for new opportunities…
#1: Salute The Younger You
Age combined with heartache chipped away at your confidence. Salute the younger you by reigniting your youthful spark.
Easier said than done, I know. But, I’ve helped my clients become great at this. Youthful spark plus hard earned wisdom equals total powerhouse.
I share several ways to perfectly forge that combination in my book. Two of those include:
- Adopting confident body language and posture
- Practice initiating conversations with others
# 2: Ditch The Self-Banter
Are you bombarded with negative thoughts? Thoughts about how you look, what you have, mistakes you’ve made, or what you’ve done?
Psychologists agree that the way we feel about ourselves affects the way we perform in our regular day-to-day activities.
Negative self-talk is toxic, but turning the thoughts off isn’t easy. Often times, the more you try to change them, the louder they get. Resolving this self-banter so you can get back to a healthy state of mind requires one habit—practice. Fortunately, I’ve found hacks that will help you turn those unwanted thoughts off. And, keep them off.
#3: Reinvent Yourself
Start concentrating on your future self now. Who do you want to be? Where do you want to go? What do you want to do?
Take a new approach by reinventing yourself. It may be tough in the beginning because people want to hold on to what feels familiar. But, your self-evolution is important. Let your divorce/breakup be a clear sign that things won’t remain the same.
You can reinvent yourself by:
- Changing your wardrobe
- Revisiting past passions
- Changing your career path
- Relocating to a new state
Use these ideas as great starting points to magnify your self-confidence and overcome dating anxiety so you can start dating again.