Once upon a time, not too long ago… people met each other for the first time through close proximity, whether it was at work, through family or friends, or through networks within their community. But, times are different now. First-time introductions aren’t happening in person or over the phone as frequently anymore. They are happening digitally, including the “new 1st date” dating trend singles should be aware of.
More about that in a minute, but first, let’s have some real talk. I want to ask you…
Have you tried online dating?
Even if it wasn’t to find a date, maybe you just went online to check out what kind of people were there. If so, you’re not alone. In fact, you’re in good company as statistics show 1 in 3 people have used online dating.
I want you to remember what you thought of when you saw the different dating profiles. Did you see some profiles and think to yourself, “boring”, or “hell no”? If you did, that’s completely normal too because most people do a poor job with their dating profiles.
Now that you’re aware of your own judgements and opinions of others online, the “new 1st date” concept will make more sense.
Dating Trend Alert: What is the “New” 1st date?
The new 1st date is actually the nonverbal conversation happening between a prospect and your online profile (A.K.A digital persona).
People who see your profile aren’t connecting with you in person or over the phone first. They’re forming a connection with your online dating profile. All of their assumptions about you—whether true or not—are happening as a result of what’s on your dating profile. If they view your profile and see something that doesn’t resonate with them, you’ve missed your chance. They move on. The behavior is the same as when you’re browsing through online profiles.
We find that many put little effort into the quality of their profile. If, by chance you make it to the next steps and someone starts a conversation with you, the string of conversation begins via chat or text without ever creating an actual human connection through voice or in-person meetings. As a result, in this new first date era, people aren’t talking; instead they’re reading and swiping through photos to form an impression of you.
Does your profile represent you accurately?
Just think how many great potential partners have passed you by because your profile rubbed them the wrong way (or vice versa). As long as 1st dates are happening digitally, you want to make sure you’re getting the highest responses possible from your dating profile. People often make so many mistakes with this. I’ve seen pretty much all of them… from the self-sabotaging profile picture(s) to the sleepy bio.
Maybe you didn’t realize it before, but now you do. The “new 1st date” is happening online with no signs of slowing down anytime soon.